Regency Marriage ~ The Ceremony Preparation & Participants

Sharon Lathan

Sharon Lathan is the best-selling author of The Darcy Saga, a ten-volume sequel series to Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice.

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Engagement rings weren’t customary and there were no double ring ceremonies. The Bishop complained about couples kissing at the altar. They could do so in the other room where they signed the parish wedding register. Royalty seemed to marry at night. Princess Charlotte was married at Carlton House at 9:30 PM .


Every one except Quakers and Jews had to be married in the Parish church by a clergyman in holy orders of the Church o England. Only Quakers and Jews were exempt from this. Catholics, Baptists, Presbyterians, Methodists, Unitarians all had to be married in the parish church by a clergyman ordained by the Church of England unless they ahd a special license and then they just needed the Anglican clergyman.


Thanks Sharon I really enjoyed this latest passage about Regency marriage. It is wonderful to learn how all of the modern day traditions were born and equally amazing to see how much they have changed or been modified over time.


I love reading all this history. I like the idea of a simple wedding, and if I get married someday I hope I can keep it fairly simple and not too ostentatious…. I think they had they right idea back then 🙂

Georgia Boone

Great story!!!!!!!


This wonderful!! Brings back memories of my wedding so long ago

Stephanie L

So interesting the way things change over time. I also found it fascinating that by 1890 (the date of that invite) they were already writing out the invitations as we still do for the most part. Jay and I did not get married in a church (we actually got married in the University of Oklahoma football stadium…looonngg story LOL), but it was pretty small and I sent out handwritten notes as invites that looked a lot like that one. Very cool!

Stephanie L

The condensed version: When Jay and I started talking about WHERE we were going to get married, we consulted our families. My family is very religious (my father is a minister) and insisted that we get married in church but my in-laws didn’t want to do that. They thought that the perfect solution was to get married in a backyard BBQ setting and I didn’t want to do that in August (it was 110 the day I got married). The closer we got to needing to make a decision, the farther away we were from a consensus. I was getting very stressed and starting to insist we just elope and call it a day. Jay worked for the University of Oklahoma athletic department at the time. He was telling some of the people he worked with that we were having difficulty deciding on a location. We were then offered the opportunity to get married in one of the large “lounges” of the Stadium. This worked because they would let us use it for free (Score!!), we could have a “traditional” ceremony with my dad marrying us, but my in-laws would not have to go to church. The end result was a small wedding followed by a picnic-type reception in a large glass walled room overlooking Owen Field. The funniest part was telling people to park in the stadium and take the elevator up to the Club level. I’ve never seen people so giddy to attend a wedding. I have pictures, but the photographer wasn’t focusing on the field much. LOL This is the short version because the long version involves disagreements and new ideas and discarded ideas and lots of tears and threats (from me) to just skip it all and then the drama of figuring out how to get married at OU and NOT make it an OU themed wedding. Note: I was glad it all worked out like it did though because my FIL was a very involved OU alum and he was THRILLED that we got married in the stadium. He died 2 months after our wedding. Everyone was satisfied and I have a funny story.

Georgia Boone

Am enjoying all the info on Regency weddings!!!!
I have a question on Elizabeth and William… “My Dearest Mr. Darcy” when they are being remarried and William gives Elizabeth her new ring, it mentioned his mother’s engagement ring of sapphires and diamonds. Then goes on to explain the wedding band he designed for their first ceremony and the wedding band he designed for the second ceremony! Where did the DESIRE band come from in “Season of Courtship”??? He gave her his mother’s ring the day after his proposal according to “My Dearest Mr. Darcy”.
Just wondering????!!
Keep up the great writing!!!!!
Blessings for a great week!!!!

Georgia Boone

Thank you for your quick response!! I know you are busy on Book 2 of prequel!!

When I read Mr Darcy My Dearest, I remember thinking why he had his mother’s ring so handy??!! I also thought it would need to come from a safe or some such thing, and would most certainly need to be cleaned, fixed, etc because of Darcy’s attention to detail!! I look forward to the presentation in further books!!

Keep up the great writing!! Blessings for a great week!!!


Very interesting. I had a very small simple wedding with only family and close friends. So far I found the series very informative. Thank you.


Also, come to think of it, all my invitations were hand written.

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